Date My Porn Star

I get the real vs porn sex thing that this show is part of the Channel 4 season to show the differences between the two. perosnally I htink its a great excuse to see more tits, ass and fanny on TV which is never a bad thing, and up until recently I had no idea how much knowing the difference between the real and porn sex was affecting peoples lives to warrant so much interest in it. I always quote a civilian friends view as one size fits all to how the public see porn.

They watch it.

Get horny.

Wank.

Turn it off and get on with their everyday lives.

At least that’s how I thought people used porn.

I hear that people are having problems like impotence, addictions and are trying to live out or be what they see in porn. That’s just madness. Seems to me that its not the product as much as it is the end user. Maybe porn films should have an end user licence agreement to put the onus of responsibility  back on the consumer. Maybe we should have patronising disclaimers that state the performers are professional, please do not try this at home!

For me porn is all about getting me going. Seeing beautiful people (or very real people) doing fantastic things. Its like TV and cinema. there is an artistic licence to exaggerate things to make commercial entertainent entertaining.

Channel 4′s #DateMyPornstar documentary focused on 3 wank mad happy lads in the UK who met the porn idols of their wanking fantasies in LA and had a complete shock to the system about the reality they were confronted with compared to the fantasy they had in their head. Isn’t this like anything in life? If people saw how hamburgers were made they’d probably be shocked too. Don’t stuntmen occasionally get killed making big action movies? Its like me visiting the Star Wars set and seeing Harrison Ford reading a paper and sucking on a Rennies complaining about arthritis and seeing all those lovely CGI aliens in bits of metal rods and latex strewn around on the studio floor

The porn business is kind of like that to. Its not perfect. Far from it in fact but there are many producers that feel creating sexy fantasies for entertainment do not need to reflect reality. Fantasy is meant to enhance reality. That what makes you buy it to have a good bit of self loving time to.

Thats alsso why we have all these crazy scenarios such as Mum and daughter lesbian scenes which ou very own UK favourite porn star Tanya Tate might find her self on the sharp end of criticism for. Its not my bag sure but then me shooting Real Cuples might also be boring to some. It was kinda daft too but the point it was fucked up might reflect the kind of people who want to see that. Sex is a highly personall thing. If that turns someone on then its their right to watch it as long as that right doesn’t infringe anyone else of their rights in real life. I dont see the harm. Its no more disturbing than reading about it in vivid descriptions in a book. As long as it relies on real people with real feelings it is going to be a complicated business.

I’ve often said to people that porn in and of itself is the only thing doing what it’s meant to do by virtue of what it is: Its just wank material.

The problem is usually down to the players in it. What theye bring toit. Take the girl who was worn out on Porno Dans show for example. The narrative said she was tired and worked out all day without explaining why. Who is to say why she was tired? Did she party hard the night before? Did she do a lot of drugs? Who knows but my point is there is more to what was said than was known and seeing that for what it was is exactly why the meda try to make the business look bad.

I found the programme judgemental in its narrative where one person appreciated what was going on  and understood it for what it was: A woman exercising her freedom of choice to be there but the narrative tried to steer the viewer into thinking she was wrong. She was a mother, she shouldnt be doing it. I’m glad Porno Dan cut that boy off fom his line of questioning because it was simply going to make the girl feel bad about what she was doing.

Its not the busines that is bad but the peoople that make you feel bad doing it is what highlights the hypocrisies of the world because that same lad questioning her was an avid user of porn and yet he was judging her for it. Porn doesnt judge the user but the user judges the porn. Look into the mirror . What do you see?

To be fair these kind of programmes are what they are, an excuse to show tits and fanny but make you feel how bad the business is and feel better about yourself.  I wish they would leave the viewer to make up their own mind instad of spoon feeding a narrative that reflected the shows agenda in putting down the porn business and its players.

Porn is  highly subjective to the individual. If you love it you will see what you want and if you hate it then your views are going to reflect that

Meanwhile porn just carries on doing what it says on the tin. If youve not seen the show then catch  it here before it goes